Pray about opening up your home
- Respite Care
- Foster Care
- Adoption (Domestic or International)
Support Foster/Adopt Families
- Love foster children and adopted children. Make sure they feel loved and welcome in this place, just like any other child.
- PRAY for these children, their biological parents, and their foster/adoptive parents. Pray for continued bonding of new parents of adopted children. PRAY!
- Don’t see adoption as the end of the need for support and prayer. See it as the the beginning for even more fervent prayer for these families who adopt.
- For families with new foster placements, or newly adopted children, volunteer to bring a meal to them! This is VERY helpful for families adjusting to a new addition to the family (even if temporary w/ fostering)
- Ask if there are needs like diapers, clothes, toothbrushes, or other small items.
- Donate toys or other items that can be circulated within the families who foster.
- For a family with a new placement, offer to take the list of new things they need (diapers, clothes, toothbrushes, shoes, etc.), and the foster parents’ money, and go to the store for them while they get settled with their new child or children.
- Buy zoo passes, movie gift cards, or anything else to help support these families.
Support Families getting Foster/Adopt Training
- Offer to babysit during their training.
- Offer to pay for their meals before and after training.
I wasn’t adopted but I have my own attachment issues as a result of going through a lot of broken family issues at a very young age. But the very reason we can foster/adopt these kids is because they have been ripped out of the only source of security they know.
When they’ve been living with multiple families at multiple homes with a constant temporary mindset, all forms of security and trust are susceptible to severe damage—it’s no wonder that many of these kids won’t trust others and only trust themselves as their only source of security. As such, many of these kids appear to have chronic behavioral issues, constant lying, refusing to listen or obey, and you find yourself teaching the same simple, logical lessons a million times and wondering why in the world do they not “get” it?
They’ve gone through severe trauma and emotional damage that I’ll never understand. And as was previously described, these kids long to be “normal,” but many of their experiences and issues are far from normal. We need others (especially parents who’ve never adopted) to understand that kids with these issues can’t be parented like most other kids.
It’s very similar to our Christian journey where God adopted us into His family, but we have our own severe trauma and damage from sin that obscures our view of God and his love for us. Just like these kids with attachment issues, we won’t let ourselves attach to God by not fully trusting in the One who causes the sun to rise every day. But He knows how little we trust Him and He loves us enough anyway to ridiculously give us both a promise and a legal oath so that “we can have great confidence as we hold to the hope that lies before us. This hope is a strong and trustworthy anchor for our souls” (Heb. 6:13-19). My prayer and hope is we have enough love, patience and wisdom for our kids to follow the example of love, patience and wisdom that our Father God has for us.
FosterAdopt Connect (Independence): https://www.fosteradopt.org/independence-mo/
The Ethics and Religious Liberty Commission: http://erlc.com/resource-library/topic-index/adoption